Prepare for a long one!...
Well it has been a busy few days and unfortunately I have been unable to let you know about any of it as we still have no internet at home and the connection in town is just so slow - that by the time I read my e-mails - an hour has passed and I haven't got round to replying to any yet - let alone think about the website!?
Where to start...
Aaron. Aaron came to Forever Angels on Monday. He was found on the street by an elderly couple, with a small carrier bag of clothes. I was told that he was 2, but once we met him, we soon realised that he was 4 or 5 years old. He was suffering from malaria, worms and anemia. He told us that he had lived with his Grandmother - but we were not able to get any more information out of him.
Aaron is a lovely boy with an amazing smile - but he was easily bored with just toddlers and babies as playmates and we quickly realised that he would be better off with children his own age and at an institution where he could attend school. We do not believe that any family will come looking for him due to the fact that he had a bag of clothes with him - so he will be in long term care and I believe it is better for the child to be moved now rather than later when attachments have been made.
We arranged with Tumaini Children's Home to take him and they came to collect him today. He was very happy to be going in the car and happy to know that he could go to school and play with other children his own age. We are regularly in touch with Tumaini and will let you know how he gets on.
This morning (Thursday) we got a call from Social Welfare to come to collect a new child - maybe 3 or 4 years old.
The boy had been found on the street 2 months ago by a bus driver. The bus driver took him to the police station where police told him to care for the child in case family members return for him....and since none have - he took him to Social Welfare today....though I still don't really understand why he waited 2 months?
Nobody seemed to know his name (even the bus driver who has been caring for him for 2 months?!) so we named him after the Bus Driver and called him Salum. He is painfully thin and has slept all day today. I did a malaria test which was negative - but we will repeat this tomorrow and take him to hospital for a full medical examination.
We have estimated that he is 3 and a half years old but he seems to be a very neglected little boy, full of scars, every bone sticking out through his skin and very timid.
Again, he is probably too old for Forever Angels - but like Mwita, I think we can feed him up and bring him to a good standard of health before he is transferred to an older child's orphanage.
Dotto and Bahati
Now here is a story and a half....!
Last week Mrs Misana (the Regional Social Worker) told me about a lady who has 4 children and is mentally ill who needs assistance.
Hannah (my volunteer) and I went out to visit this family in their home last Friday.
The family live in total squalor. They have a mud hut with 2 tiny rooms and no belongings at all. The children and her all sleep on rags on the mud floor. They have no mosquito netting, no clothes and most importantly - no food.
The mother is not mentally ill - she actually has epilepsy! Here though, epilepsy is very misunderstood and it is thought that sufferers are possessed by the devil. She is outcast in her community and unable to get work. She lives bybegging - through which she makes about 20p a day.
Her children are 6 months, 2 years, 5 years and 7 years and they look after themselves all day while she is out trying to get food for them. In fact - when we went to her house to visit them - the 6 month old and the 2 year old were alone at the house and had been all day.
This woman is desperate.
She is unable to breast feed the baby as she suffered an epileptic fit whilst cooking on a charcoal fire and suffered severe burns on her arms, legs, chest and tummy. Her breasts have been totally burnt off and she has no milk to feed her baby. The baby is actually a twin and the other twin recently died.....I have mixed stories about how her other twin died - but burns were mentioned as was hunger?
Initially we were asked to take the 2 smallest children to Forever Angels which we agreed to - but the Social Welfare office has been busy all week and they had not managed to arrange this. Knowing the family were starving, Hannah and I have visited the family and taken clothes, toys, shoes, food and milk powder to them until we could find a more long term solution, and Social Welfare could deal with their case.
Today I met with the Mother and Social Welfare and we devised a plan to try to help the whole family.
For now, the youngest two children are starving and need food which she can not provide. She needs to work in order to provide for her family - but with 4 young children and an illness which means she is an outcast - this is very difficult....after a lot of discussion - a plan was born....
Tomorrow, the two youngest children - Dotto (a 6 month old girl) and Bahati (a 2 year old boy) will come to live at Forever Angels.
At the weekend I will help the mother to find a house to rent close to the Baby Home (possible for about 4 pounds a month) and we will employ her as a cleaner in the Volunteer House at Forever Angels. In this way - she can earn a good salary and visit her 2 children every day. We will keep some of her salary each month and save it for her and in 3 to 6 months we will re-assess the situation. With her 'savings' we will then help her to buy clothes, mattress and blankets for her children. Her babies will return to live with her once she has this stable job and an income. In the meantime - we will keep an eye on her older two children and the mother's health. She has bad epilepsy which is not controlled properly by medicine - so we will also ensure she attends clinic correctly to improve this.
It would be very easy for me to help her now - to buy her clothes and food and furniture and to give her money each month so she can live a good life and stay with her children. But the same applies to many thousands of families I see each day here. Sometimes it is hard to know who to help and who not to - and as much as I want to - you can not help everyone.
In order to really help - we need to help people to help themselves. By caring for her children temporarily - we are giving her the opportunity to have proper, paid employment (for the first time), gain some self esteem and confidence, manage her medical condition and try to build a better future for her whole family.
Lets hope it works....
So - by tomorrow, we will have 18 children at the Baby Home. We initially said our capacity is 20 - but Social Welfare have always tried to convince me to increase to 50 children. I think we will have to reach a compromise somewhere near the 30 mark! I can not reject a desperate child - and the need is still huge - we admit an average of one child every fortnight to Forever Angels....
This week we have had to order more clothes cupboards and high chairs to be made and I think beds will be ordered very soon too. Every day I see a case more desperate than the last.... I am not sure how the suffering we witness here every day will ever end?
Thank you though to all our supporters - we are only helping a tiny number of children - but I guess you have to start somewhere - and Forever Angels is a truly wonderful place, thanks to the support of people like you.
These new angels will be added to our website very shortly....but we are still internet-less at home and such jobs take a while longer now!